How legal advice and coaching benefits divorcing couples

Here, specialist Family Solicitors Mel Loxley and Lisa Collins, Partners and Team Leaders of the Birkett Long's family team, and Gemma Hall, a Heartbreak and Trauma Recovery Coach of TeamYOU Coaching, explore how their roles complement one another.

Divorce: the role of the lawyer in a divorce

As specialist family solicitors, we help many clients navigate the legal complexities of the end of their relationship while also dealing with the heartbreak they are experiencing.

It is crucial for separating couples to secure separate and specialist legal advice to ensure that they understand their rights and can make sensible decisions. We help our clients achieve the best possible outcome while at the same time encouraging them to deal with the arising issues as amicably as possible.

As family solicitors, we have to be skilled at helping people in times of crisis, and thankfully, we are well-equipped to do so. Being kind, supportive, and compassionate are crucial skills for a good family lawyer to have.   

We often find that the emotions which stem from relationship breakdown can make it difficult for our clients to deal with and focus on the legal issues that need to be resolved. As such, we regularly advise our clients to seek emotional support to help them through the process, whether from friends or family or someone qualified to help, such as a coach or counsellor.

It was, therefore, fantastic to meet Gemma, whose specialism is in coaching those facing heartbreak and trauma. While Gemma can help clients process and deal with the emotions they are facing, we can focus our energy and expertise on helping those clients understand and make informed and sensible decisions about the legal issues they face. We can take the steps that need to be taken at the right time and support and guide our clients every step of the way.

Having a coach like Gemma who can help clients deal with the emotions of their situation can be invaluable. It can help clients feel more in control of their destiny and empowered to make the decisions that need to be made.
 

Divorce: the role of the coach in a divorce

When I went through my own divorce, it was a very isolating and lonely experience. I struggled with the loss of my marriage but also the future I thought I knew for myself and my children. Years later, I qualified as a Divorce Coach Practitioner so that I could help others navigate the overwhelm of divorce and free them from the pain and decision fatigue of divorce.

As a Heartbreak & Trauma Recovery Coach, I use a variety of tools and techniques, such as Emotional Freedom Therapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming and action-led coaching to enable you to move through the emotions that keep us stuck. When we feel hurt or angry, we can sometimes expect our family lawyers to validate our experience. However, the legal system is there to provide a fair and equitable outcome in divorce. 

With the introduction of the 'no fault' system, that does not include any emotional turmoil. Therefore, by working with a coach in collaboration with your family lawyer, you will have the safe space you need to process your emotions and the clarity to work effectively with your law team. Ultimately, this will ensure that the process is less stressful, runs more smoothly, and allows you to focus forward with peace of mind.  

 For expert legal advice, please see Mel Loxley's and Lisa Collins contacts below, or please contact Gemma Hall 07368 805008 [email protected] for expert emotional support during your divorce.